It’s no secret that being a mother is challenging. In fact, in my opinion, it is THE hardest job in the world.
There was a time, early on, when I focused solely on my woes and all of the difficulties I faced as a mother. Anyone who knew me at that time may have thought that I was a raving lunatic.
That’s exactly how I felt. I hadn’t fully healed from the trauma surrounding my oldest child’s birth and, dang it, having 2 children under 2 is Just. Plain. Hard.
I had mastered my discontent. I knew it well. I began my day with it and sealed it into my dreams at night.
Little did I know, there is an easy way out. I learned through a series of trial and error that I could actually use my discontent as the driver to move my life in a new direction.
Think of it this way. We tend to create change in our lives in 2 ways.
Intention from – moving away from our discontent.
Intention toward – moving in the direction of a desired outcome.
Since many of us begin with intention from, I’ve created an easy 3 step process below to help you use your discontent to thrive in motherhood.
Name Your Discontent: What? “I thought I was supposed to be reciting words of joy and positivity”, you may be saying to yourself. Well, you heard me right. As the late Louise Hay was known to say “you have to see the dirt in order to clean the house”. It’s the same with your discontent. Shine the light on it. Take a look at it. And then, write it out. Line by line. Name your discontent.
Intention Toward: Take each discontent and turn it into an intention toward. I’ll give you a few examples to get you started. Let’s say one of your discontents is “I’m exhausted”. What you may really want is some energy to get you through the day. Instead of saying “I’m exhausted”, you could say “I feel energetic throughout the day”, or whatever wording feels right for you.
Take a Step: Now that you have created an intention toward, make a list of steps you could take to feel more energetic throughout the day. If the step feels too big, break it down into smaller steps. Choose ONE step and integrate it into your life before moving on to the next. For example:
go to bed earlier
reduce sugar intake
take a brisk walk
What is one step you can take using the process above? Please share with a comment below.
*Do you need help turning your discontent into an intention toward? I’ve created an easy cheat sheet to help you. Download it for free using the button below.
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