What makes YOU come alive?


What kind of life would YOU love living?  YOU.  Not your family.  Not your friends.  Not society.  YOU!

  • What would YOU love?

  • What brings YOU life?

  • What do YOU want to be or do or create in this life?

Think about it…really…let your imagination run wild...

Most of us, when we think about what we really want, start with what we think we could do, what we should do, what our present circumstances allow, what the economy is doing, what our bank account says…

It’s time to start asking different questions, bigger questions.

Howard Thurman said Don't ask what the world needs.  Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it it.  Because what the world needs is more people who have come alive.

Your life is an example to everyone you encounter.

  • Of possibility

  • Of hope

  • Of life

Imagine how your children would benefit from a mother who is truly alive…

  • What would YOU love?

  • What brings YOU life?

  • What do YOU want to do or be or create or experience in this life?

What would a wealthy life look like to YOU?  Wealth is not just about money.  Merriam-Webster defines wealth as abundant supply.  We can have wealth in any area of life. 

  • Wealthy in health

  • Wealthy in time

  • Wealthy in love

Designing a wealthy life begins with knowing what you really want

What is it for YOU?

Try this:

  • Take a few deep breaths and center yourself

  • Ask yourself this question:  If it all worked out, what would I love to be or do or have or experience in this life?

  • Grab a pen and paper and let your imagination run wild.

  • And what else and what else and what else...

Shine Brightly,


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Be Careful What You Wish For


Did you ever wish for something that you really wanted but thought that it would never come true?

You know.  It's that thing that you feel deep down in your core.  Something you ponder while drifting off to sleep at night.  If only, you think to yourself. 

Well, I did too!

For me it was that elusive relationship with my father. The one I had been craving since childhood. Due to circumstances beyond my control I spent over 2 decades wishing and wanting. It felt so far out of my reach.

And today, I am pinching myself. 

The latest and greatest is that my father is moving to Raleigh. In September. He wants to be near me. To know his grandchildren. To be a part of our lives.

And, my heart is filled to overflowing.

I never imagined that it would happen...that is until I did.  I imagined it with all of my heart and soul.

And, I'm here to tell you that miracles do happen. They are everywhere if we open our eyes. Sometimes they are big and sometimes they are very small but they do happen.

This particular miracle began with changing my mind and moving toward what I want rather than pushing away from what I don't. Deciding for rather than wishing for. 

  • Deciding what I wanted
  • Believing that it would happen
  • Taking action on my desires

With this in mind, I am holding a Vision Board Workshop later this month.  To help you get super clear about what you want.  To keep it up close and in your awareness.  So that you can begin to take the steps necessary to bring your miracles into your life.

How about you? Any miracles occurring in your life? Please reply to this email and let me know regardless of how small they seem?  It lights me up to hear about all the goodness in the world.

Wishing you and yours peace, love, joy and many miracles!

Shine Brightly,


Life by Design Vision Board Workshop

Saturday, September 29

10-4PM EST

Raleigh, NC

$75 (includes a delicious lunch from Sunflowers Cafe)

BE Her Now


There is nothing quite like living a vision driven life.  Creating a vision and BEcoming the woman you are envisioning.  Bearing witness to the metamorphosis within yourself.

It starts with a vision.  3 years from today.  Something that lights you up.  Has the YES! factor.  An absolute YES!  I would love this life.

And, then, there is the contrast.  The space.  The gap.  Between the life you would love to live and the life you are living today. 

It is natural.  The feeling of this gap.  The fear.  The uncertainty.  The unknown.  The “how the hell am I going to get from here to there” feeling.

That woman.  The woman you are envisioning 3 years from today.  She is already within you.  You are BEcoming her.

It’s not an arrival.  A place to get to.  It’s a BEcoming.  YOUR BEcoming.

And, in order to BEcome her, you need to BE HER NOW.

Let’s say that in your vision.  3 years from today.  You are a loving, caring, patient mom.  This is what you desire.  You want this more than anything.  BE HER NOW in your current circumstances.  Not waiting for things to change first.

If, in your vision 3 years from today, you are working in an amazing work environment where you are respected, fulfilled and challenged.  Then, you are BEING HER NOW in the workplace you are in today.

How about that radiant health and well-being in your 3 year vision?  You feel well-rested, vibrant and energetic NOW.

  • How would you hold yourself?
  • What kinds of conversations would you have?
  • How would it feel to be you?

BE HER NOW.  And you will find.  That when you are that loving, caring, patient mom or in a work environment where you are respected, fulfilled and challenged or experiencing radiant health and well-being, you already know what it feels like.  Because you had been rehearsing.  You created future memory.  Cells of recognition.

You had been BEING HER NOW.

Shine Brightly,


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On BEing


Each day I shower.

Each day I imagine.

Each day I shower as the woman I imagine myself BEcoming.


I put her on.

I act as if I AM that woman.

The woman I am BEcoming.


I see the steam.

I smell the shampoo.

I feel the warm water run down my back like she does.


I think.

I plan.

I shower as if I am the future me.


I create future memory.

Cells of recognition.

Of how incredibly amazing it feels to be the woman I am 3 years from today.

Try this:

  • Imagine yourself 3 years from today.  Loving your life. 
  • Put it on with your 5 senses.  What do you see, feel, hear, smell, taste?
  • Ask yourself "What step would my future self tell me to take today?"
  • Take that step.

Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,


Do you need help imagining a life you would love living?  Start here with this complimentary series of Life By Design Daily Affirmations.  Designed with care to remind you of who you are, what you are capable of and how much you rock. (The first one is the most important.)  Enjoy!

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New Year New Vision Board

The days of creating New Year’s Resolutions are over for me.  I spent so many years creating them and then being completely disappointed in my failure to follow through with what I thought I wanted.

Now, I create a yearly Vision Board.

My Vision Board is a daily reminder of my intentions.  A visual reminder of what I truly desire in my life.    It is less about things and more about creation.  What I want to create for myself and my family.

I still include things on my board.  But, now, they are more of a marker rather than filling a hole as they were in the past.  An indication that I have arrived.

They remind me:

  • That I am on the right track.
  • That I am living my life by choice.
  • That I am a powerful force in my own life.

A true Vision Board is not a craft project.  It’s not a cut and paste activity although I’ve seen some delightful Vision Board creations.  Some true works of art.

It’s much, much more.  A Vision Board, created with inner inquiry and intention, is a powerful tool in creating what we truly desire.  It’s a decision to live life by design rather than by the default mode we may have been used to Up Until Now.

Good News!  I am holding a Vision Board Workshop in Raleigh, on January 27, 2018!  Join us for a full day immersion including a mini workshop, coaching, inner inquiry and sharing with 11 other powerful creators in a room full of creative energy.  Sign up now as there are only 12 seats and they will fill up fast.

Here’s to 2018!  The best year of your life!

*I placed red hearts on the images that have come into being.  You should see the rest of the board!  (I'll bring it to the workshop)

Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,


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I Heart Sedona


Do you have an adventure list?  Is there something in particular that you’d love to see or do or experience that just seems to stay a thought in your head?

Many years ago, my husband and I had an extended lay over in Phoenix.  We had just enough time to rent a car, drive the 2 hours to Sedona to watch a sunset and return to the Phoenix airport to catch our flight. Ever since then, experiencing another Sedona sunset had been on the adventure list in my head.

In May it became a reality!  Sunrise, sunset, yoga hiking tour and so much more.  It was just as I imagined it would be.  Just as I had written about it day after day.

  • I DECIDED to go to Sedona.
  • I IMAGINED it daily in my mind, in my journal and on my vision board.
  • I TOOK ACTION by choosing a date and making reservations.

That's me in tree pose on top of Cathedral Rock!  I even found a quiet rock to meditate on.  This is what it looks like when I follow my bliss.

What does your bliss look like?

Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,


*Do you need help finding your bliss?  Start here with this complimentary series of Life By Design Daily Affirmations.  These affirmations are designed with care to remind you of who you are, all that you are capable of and how much you rock.  (The first affirmation is the most important.)  Enjoy!


Do you listen to your longings and discontent?  Or do you push them down, putting on a positive face?
In this day of positive thinking we are told to only think positive thoughts, not to dwell on what is wrong in life.  And, this is true.  We do want to come from a higher level of thinking, on what is right with the world but we also need to pay attention to what is coming up for us.  If we keep pushing it down, it will always push back up.  Kind of like whack a mole.
In actuality, our longings and discontent are information.  They are messages from the deepest part of us telling us that there is much more for us in this life.
We can start with our desire and then a willingness to do things differently.
Successful people often face a turning point that comes through some crisis or difficulty.  They begin to realize that there is a part of them that is greater than what they are facing, a higher version of themselves that is seeking to emerge.
The circumstances in our lives are simply that, circumstances.  The facts are the circumstances but the Truth is that we are greater than our circumstances.
There is a part of you that has all of the answers you seek.  There is a part of you that knows exactly what to do.
Einstein says that the quality of the answer depends on the quality of the question.  You have to know where you are going to know the right questions to ask to get there.
What do you long for?  Where is your discontent?    Which one speaks the loudest?
Unleash your desire.  Make a decision from your heart.  What would you love to be or do or have?
What would it feel like to have what you desire?  Create a crystal clear picture of what you want and take the steps to get there.
The possibilities are endless...
Discover. Empower. Balance.
Be Well,
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Winding Up

Old watch As we near the end of the year, the temptation is to wind down, go into hibernation, take a long winter snooze.  To spend these last few weeks getting ready for the holidays and then crashing until February or March.

This year, instead of winding down, I am choosing to Wind Up.

I’ll be:

Winding Up my awareness

Winding Up my goals

Winding Up activity

Winding Up for the mountains I will move in 2017

I am recharging now rather than in January when everyone else is resting.  Gaining momentum now instead of losing steam.  Creating my life now instead of getting started in the New Year.

I’ll be getting really clear about what I want so I can design a year I love.  I’ll be taking note (without judgement) of the lessons learned in 2016.  I’ll be using these notes to guide me in making 2017 my best year yet.  I’ll be asking myself these 3 important questions:

What was I doing?

What worked?

What didn’t?

Time is precious.  What will you do with yours?

I AM creating a life I love.


Discover. Empower. Balance.

Be Well,


Need help Winding Up? Schedule a Mini Clarity Session today.

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Are You Ready?


What if you had a magic wand and all of your dreams came true…today?  Would you be ready?

  • The dream partner
  • The dream business
  • The dream home

What if they were already here?  Would you be ready to open the door and let them in?

Many of us, when we even dare to dream, forget this very important piece.  In order to get what we want in life, we have to make the space for it.  Make it welcome in our lives.

There are 3 keys to creating the life of your dreams:

  • Decide - become crystal clear on what you desire in order to make it happen.
  • Believe – have undying faith that what you desire is already yours.
  • Act – take a step, every day, in the direction of your dream.

Ask this question.  What can I do today with what I have?

If you desire a dream home, for example, you might:

  • Find a real estate agent
  • Get pre-approved for a mortgage
  • Put your present home on the market

Dreaming your dream home doesn’t get you the keys.

Take a step.  Get ready.  Make it welcome.

Discover. Empower. Balance.

Shine Brightly,


*Need help getting ready? In between my coaching and speaking schedule, I carve out a few Fun Flow & Freedom Clarity Sessions each month.  Click Here for instant access to my calendar.

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The Intention Box


After my Grandma Grace passed away I inherited a lovely box. It was given to her from a Shiseido rep when she worked the cosmetic counter of a department store.  Instead of housing the powder puff it used to, although it still holds the scent of Grandma Grace, it now holds my intentions, my dreams.

There is a certain power in writing down your dreams. It is as if by bringing the words out of your head and onto paper, you are presenting it to the Universe.  Placing your order with the Cosmic Waiter.

Periodically, I open the box to place a new intention in it. I never cease to be amazed that more often than not, my intentions have come to pass.

Pam Grout, author of E2 Nine Do-It-Yourself Energy Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality, shares that there is an order to placing an intention, a process for success.

  • Write down what you want as clearly as possible and then back off. It is your business to be as clear as possible about WHAT you want but leave the HOW to the Cosmic Waiter.
  • Write a start date as well as a “due date”. A beginning and an end.
  • Visualize your intention as often as you can.  As if it is already happening.  As if you have become the woman who is experiencing it.

Shine Brightly.


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Decide and Conquer

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“You just have to persevere. One day that door will open.  If you don’t persevere, you won’t be there when it does.”  Carole King

I spent much of my adult life feeling as if I was on “the edge of greatness”. As if I was waiting for a lightning bolt to strike down and then I would know exactly what to do and when.  I was so afraid that I was going to make the “wrong” decision.  That my very being depended on being perfect and making “good” choices.  So, I stayed in indecision, and nothing happened.

It took a long time to learn that the next step is only revealed after we take the first step, any step, as uncertain as it may feel. It takes forward momentum to make a change, to live more fully, to experience more joy in our lives.  It could be a very tiny step.  Maybe it’s a phone call, hitting the I’M IN button on a website, making a different choice at the grocery store.

Taking a step opens the door for new possibilities. It’s like giving the universe your RSVP.  It’s a YES!  I’ll be there.

The only “wrong” decision is not making one at all.

So, make a decision, take a step and walk through that door.

Wishing you well.


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