I spent most of my life wanting to feel good. Because…I didn’t. I felt awful.
About my circumstances.
About my life.
I had little to no self awareness. I didn’t know that I had the power within me to change the way I was feeling.
And then I had kids. Wow! Having kids was like holding a magnifying glass over all that was “wrong” with my life. It was painful but it was the kick in the butt I needed to make some significant changes.
My kids were depending on me to dig in deep and BEcome the mom they deserved.
In the process I learned how to notice what I was noticing.
THE key to feeling good.
I learned how to check in and ask myself: How am I feeling? Am I feeling contraction or am I feeling expansion.
A contractive feeling is the way fear, anger, frustration or the like feels. For me, a contractive feeling almost feels like I want to protect myself. Shoulders come in, I may cross my arms in a protective way.
An expansive feeling is the way joy, abundance or gratitude feels. For me, my heart feels open. I feel expansion in my heart space.
If I am feeling expansive then I bask in the goodness.
If I am feeling contractive I ask myself this question: What thought am I having that is giving me this feeling?
Maybe I am feeling the contraction of overwhelm and the thought I am having is “I have so much to do and so little time.”
This is a great opportunity to change the thought. To shift the thought from contraction to expansion. The easiest way to shift from contraction to expansion is gratitude.
Gratitude is the back door to abundance.
Simply replace the contractive thought with something you are grateful for. And, feel into it. Feel the gratitude throughout your entire body.
You may even stand up taller and roll your shoulders up, back and down again. Maybe even get into a power pose like Wonder Woman with your hands on your hips. Take a deep, grateful breath. Ahhh!
How are you feeling?
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Photo by: Taylor Ann Wright