You and your family are as unique as your thumbprint. The way you parent and raise your children is unique to you. In this day and age of social media it is tempting to get caught up in the comparison game, especially when you are a mom.
It is easy to judge yourself based on what others are doing or not doing. It is easy to want to follow the latest fad. It is easy to want to fit in.
I believe this begins in early childhood. We are taught that conformity is the acceptable way. Do it the way everyone else does it and you’ll be ok. If you deviate from the norm there must be something wrong with you.
Sadly, many of us have no clue who we really are. We have adopted the core values and passion of others through childhood, society and life experiences.
Or, we are playing the toxic game of Mom Comparison. It is the biggest mistake we can make as moms. Not only does it often lead us down the wrong path but we are teaching our children how to live a life of comparison as well.
No wonder there is so much pain in the world. No wonder I felt so much pain throughout my childhood and into adulthood. I felt like a square peg trying to fit into a round hole. I knew I wasn’t like most other people. I knew that I was trying to force myself into conformity. But, I didn’t know what to do about it other than live very uncomfortably for most of my life.
During my “renewal”, I learned to use the way I am feeling as a compass. I learned that the way I am feeling is a key indicator of whether I am being true to who I really am. I learned to lean in and really pay attention to what is right for me and my family.
There is absolutely no comparison between your unique self and the unique self of another. Brene Brown says this brilliantly in this quote. “If it doesn’t fit it isn’t you.”
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