Choose Joy

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We create the life we lead. Whether we mean to or not. Oftentimes, we create it exactly the way we did yesterday, the year before and the year before that. Like Ground Hog Day. Over and over and over again. The people and circumstances may change slightly but we still have the same life.

  • the same health
  • the same relationships
  • the same job

We may give our circumstances a face-lift.  But in essence, we stick with the pattern that has been ingrained in us, the pattern we have ingrained in ourselves. Our minds love patterns.

We create the life we lead by the thoughts we think. Simple but true. If we ever wonder where our focus is, we need no more than to look at our lives.

Circumstances are circumstances. They are simply what happens around us.

  • Thoughts.  About circumstances.  Create feelings.

  • Feelings generate actions.

  • Actions produce results.

  • Results are the lives we lead.

Good News!!! We have complete control over our thoughts. In fact, our thoughts are the only thing in life that we have complete control over.

It starts with noticing what you’re noticing.  A feeling is often the first indication of a thought you are having. 


Try this…

  • Identify a familiar feeling you have had (Ex. Anger, frustration, overwhelm)

  • Trace the feeling back to a thought.

  • Choose an expansive thought.  Choose to become interested in gratitude, joy or beauty.

  • Notice how the new thought feels.

  • Wash.Rinse.Repeat.   


Try this with all of your undesirable thoughts. It takes practice but it will change your life. One thought at a time.

You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every day. This is a power you can cultivate. If you want to control things in your life so bad, work on the mind. That's the only thing you should be trying to control.
~ Elizabeth Gilbert

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


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What makes YOU come alive?

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What kind of life would YOU love living?  YOU.  Not your family.  Not your friends.  Not society.  YOU!

  • What would YOU love?

  • What brings YOU life?

  • What do YOU want to be or do or create in this life?

Think about it…really…let your imagination run wild...

Most of us, when we think about what we really want, start with what we think we could do, what we should do, what our present circumstances allow, what the economy is doing, what our bank account says…

It’s time to start asking different questions, bigger questions.

Howard Thurman said Don't ask what the world needs.  Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it it.  Because what the world needs is more people who have come alive.

Your life is an example to everyone you encounter.

  • Of possibility

  • Of hope

  • Of life

Imagine how your children would benefit from a mother who is truly alive…

  • What would YOU love?

  • What brings YOU life?

  • What do YOU want to do or be or create or experience in this life?

What would a wealthy life look like to YOU?  Wealth is not just about money.  Merriam-Webster defines wealth as abundant supply.  We can have wealth in any area of life. 

  • Wealthy in health

  • Wealthy in time

  • Wealthy in love

Designing a wealthy life begins with knowing what you really want

What is it for YOU?


Try this:

  • Take a few deep breaths and center yourself

  • Ask yourself this question:  If it all worked out, what would I love to be or do or have or experience in this life?

  • Grab a pen and paper and let your imagination run wild.

  • And what else and what else and what else...


Shine Brightly,

Tracy


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Shining the Light on the Dark

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Life is interesting isn’t it?  The yin and yang of this human experience.

Light and dark

Good and bad

Possible and impossible

We are conditioned to believe that it has to be one way or another.  But, what if what we are telling ourselves is not true?

It was Henry Ford who once said “whether you think you can or you think you can’t you’re right.”

What if we could see the good in the bad?

Shine the light on the dark?

Create the possible out of the impossible?

As rigorous as life becomes at times, we can always count on the fact that the sun always rises.

What if we were to clear our limiting beliefs simply by changing our thoughts about any circumstance that comes our way?

Think about the power in that.  And, realize that you have that power within you.


Try this:

  • Fold a piece of paper in half lengthwise
  • Write an “impossible” situation in your life across the top
  • Write a list of the possible negative outcomes on the left side
  • Write a counter list of possible positive outcomes on the right side
  • When your mind turns to the negative, replace the thought with all that could go right

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


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For This I Came

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Have you ever felt as if there was more for you in this life but you just couldn't figure out what it was?  Me too.  I spent most of my adult life seeking, studying and analyzing.  Looking outside of myself for the answers.

I spent much of that time thinking...

  • after I get the ideal job I will...
  • after I get my health in order I will...
  • after I get my finances figured out I will...

And, now I understand that purpose doesn't mean that there is one grand plan for life here on Earth.  That I am here to accomplish just one thing.

I finally get it.  Life is to be lived.  NOW!  I am here to live my joy in this moment.

I discovered that purpose is more about living fully, doing what brings me life.  Rather than searching for purpose, I could have been living on purpose.  And, enjoying life along the way.

I discovered that I can use my imagination to try on different roles, different scenarios.  I listen to the still, small, ever present, ever wise voice inside of me.  And, see how they feel.  I do the expansion/contraction test.  Does this bring me life or does it feel constrictive?  If it brings me life I know that I am on the right track.

Why are you here?  What lights you up?  What would you love to be or do or have?

Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy

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Listen

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Do you listen to your longings and discontent?  Or do you push them down, putting on a positive face?
In this day of positive thinking we are told to only think positive thoughts, not to dwell on what is wrong in life.  And, this is true.  We do want to come from a higher level of thinking, on what is right with the world but we also need to pay attention to what is coming up for us.  If we keep pushing it down, it will always push back up.  Kind of like whack a mole.
In actuality, our longings and discontent are information.  They are messages from the deepest part of us telling us that there is much more for us in this life.
We can start with our desire and then a willingness to do things differently.
Successful people often face a turning point that comes through some crisis or difficulty.  They begin to realize that there is a part of them that is greater than what they are facing, a higher version of themselves that is seeking to emerge.
The circumstances in our lives are simply that, circumstances.  The facts are the circumstances but the Truth is that we are greater than our circumstances.
There is a part of you that has all of the answers you seek.  There is a part of you that knows exactly what to do.
Einstein says that the quality of the answer depends on the quality of the question.  You have to know where you are going to know the right questions to ask to get there.
What do you long for?  Where is your discontent?    Which one speaks the loudest?
Unleash your desire.  Make a decision from your heart.  What would you love to be or do or have?
What would it feel like to have what you desire?  Create a crystal clear picture of what you want and take the steps to get there.
The possibilities are endless...
Discover. Empower. Balance.
Be Well,
Tracy
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A Magic Wand

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What kind of life would YOU love living?  YOU!  Not your family.  Not your friends.  Not society.

YOU!

If you had a magic wand.  What would you create for yourself?  What would your life look like?

What would YOU love?

What brings YOU life?

What do YOU want to do or be or have in this life?

Think about it…really…let your imagination run wild...

Most of us, when we think about what we really want, start with what we think would fit into our lives based on:

  • our credentials
  • family expectations
  • societal expectations
  • our present circumstances
  • the economy
  • our bank account…

It’s time to start asking different questions, bigger questions.

Howard Thurman advised “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

Your desires are as unique as your thumbprint.

What do YOU desire?

What would fill YOU to the brim?

What would your life look like?

  • your health and well-being
  • your relationships
  • your vocation and/or creative expression in the world
  • your time/money freedom

What would you love to be or do or have or create or experience?

And what else and what else and what else…

Discover. Empower. Balance.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy

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New Year New Vision Board

dsc_0017-640x427-2 The days of creating New Year’s Resolutions are over for me.  I spent so many years creating them and then being completely disappointed in my failure to follow through with what I thought I wanted.

Now, I create a yearly Vision Board.

The Vision Board is a daily reminder of my intentions.  A visual reminder of what I truly desire in my life.    It is less about things and more about creation.  What I want to create for myself and my family.

I still include things in my board.  But, they are more of a marker rather than filling a hole as they were in the past.

They remind me:

That I am on the right track.

That I am living my life by choice.

That I am a powerful force in my life.

A true Vision Board is not a craft project.  It’s not a cut and paste activity although I’ve seen some delightful Vision Board creations.  Some true works of art.

It’s much, much more.  A Vision Board, created with inner inquiry and intention, is a powerful tool in creating what we truly desire.  It’s a decision to live life by design rather than by the default mode we may have been used to up until now.

Good News!  I am holding a Vision Board Workshop in Raleigh, on January 21, 2017!  Join us for a full day immersion including a mini workshop, coaching, inner inquiry and sharing with 11 other powerful creators in a room full of creative energy.  Oh yeah, and a delicious boxed lunch from Catering Works!  Sign up now as there are only 12 seats and they will fill up fast.

Here’s to 2017!  The best year of your life!

 

Discover. Empower. Balance.

Be Well,

Tracy

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Reflection

img_7068-640x480 At the end of every year I like to get out my calendar, my journal and a pen.  To take a close look at the events that unfolded and reflect.  Without judgement.  Without contempt.  Without remorse.  I take a good look at it all.

Years before, I would have written down all that I perceived as “bad” and burned it to get it as far away from me as possible.  And, hold on tight to the wins (if I could find any).  Now, I carefully tie it all together and celebrate.

All of the wins big and small.

All of the wonderful opportunities for growth.

The gift of choice in every moment.

I celebrate it all with a grateful heart.  Get a good glimpse of the past year in the rear view mirror of my mind.  Thanking my “younger” self for all the choices I made last year to get me where I am today.

If there is one thing I have learned since breaking my life apart almost 5 years ago, it is this.  I get to choose how I will interpret my circumstances.  I get to choose how I will respond.  I get to choose joy over any other emotion.  I get to choose to celebrate all that transpired, let it move through me and then let it go.  NOW is all that matters.

So…get out your calendar from 2016, a pen and your journal. Take a close look at the events that unfolded.  Journal it out.  Do a mind-dump.  Then, find the good in each circumstance.  Find the hidden blessings.  Rewrite last year’s story with compassion for the woman who experienced those circumstances and thank her for where she is today.

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”  Wayne Dyer

 

Discover. Empower. Balance.

Be Well,

Tracy

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Practice Makes Progress

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Remember the old saying “practice makes perfect”?  We were told this when we were kids.  When things seemed hard.  When we wanted to be the best at something we just started.  We were told that if we practice relentlessly, we would eventually master what we were facing.

I absolutely believe in practice but have come to terms with the word perfect.  I prefer to say perfectly imperfect.  The perfect part of us is our soul.  The very depth of our being.  The imperfection comes from our humanness.  There is nothing perfect about being human.  We are made to fall and stumble.  It is how we learn.

Now, I am more prone to say Practice Makes Progress.  Ahhh!  That feels better.  We don’t have to strive for perfection as there is no such thing in this human form.  We can instead strive for progress.  Progress is what we are meant to do on this Earth.  To grow.  To change.  To morph into the next version of ourselves.

When we start to go down the old road of “practice makes perfect” we can remember that we are shifting into the next version of ourselves.   By acknowledging our progress we are going with the flow of life instead of swimming upstream against the current of perfection.  Life is continually seeking to express itself through us.  It is why we strive to be more, do more, have more.  Not for perfection but for progress.

So, we can learn to celebrate our victories, no matter how trivial they may seem.  We can turn any “stumbling blocks” we may encounter into stepping stones.

  • We can celebrate our progress.
  • We can celebrate our imperfections.
  • We can celebrate our humanness.

How will you celebrate today?

Discover. Empower. Balance.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy

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Remember Your Brilliance

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Do you know how incredible you are?  Have you ever really thought about how much you have to offer?  About all of the ways that you rock?

We are often so blinded by the circumstances of our lives that we forget who we are.  As if amnesia has set in.  One disappointment.  One negative comment.  Can send us into a downward spiral of victim hood or low self-esteem.  We believe that we don’t have what it takes to pursue our heart’s desire.

The Truth is that you are capable of far more than you know.  There is not one person on Earth who is exactly like you.  Your experiences, your genes, your desires, your talents.  They are all woven together into an intricate, unrepeatable arrangement called YOU.

Guess what!  You have assets.  They may be hidden but they are there.  But, you can’t use your assets until you are aware of them, until you bring them to the surface and let them shine like a brilliant gem.

I’ve created a worksheet that I call Remember Your Brilliance. To help you create our own personal asset list.  This is different than creating a resume.  You are calling forth a full spectrum of assets.  Brilliance in all areas of life.

At first, it may seem like the list is coming out as a trickle, but as you delve deeper, going deep into your memory bank, you will be in awe at what comes forth.  The prompts will help you let it flow.

This simple practice will build confidence and self-esteem.  Remind you of all the ways you rock.  Let it support you in building your dream, in letting your light shine.

Ask yourself:  What can I do with what I have?

You have something unique and beautiful to offer the world.  You are capable of far more than you’ve ever imagined.  It’s time to share it.

Discover. Empower. Balance.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy

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Rise and Shine

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Morning.  Early Morning.  Before my family wakes.  Is my favorite time of day.

In the quiet stillness.  The dawn of a new day of life.

It’s my time.  To fill my cup.  To feed my mind, my body and my soul.

It isn’t always easy, this rising and shining.  Many mornings I just don’t feel like leaving a delightful dream, the comfort of my bed, the warmth of my husband next to me.  But I have made a commitment to myself.  To my own self-care.  For making more time in the day just for me.

I am always rewarded.  Always grateful.  That I thought enough of me to give myself this gift of a morning.

My morning ritual has changed here and there.  With the needs of my soul.  With the season of my life.  With whatever I may be dabbling in at the time.  But the elements are pretty much the same.  They feed me, sustain me, give me the strength I sometimes need to move through my day.

My Absolute YES!

  1. A Brisk Walk to connect with nature and my own physical form
  2. Yoga to reunite my mind, body and soul
  3. Meditation to harmonize with my own life essence
  4. Gratitude to align myself with the generosity of the Universe
  5. Dreaming to explore the endless possibilities that are available to me

A new day.

A fresh start.

How glorious!

I can choose, this day, to see the world differently.

Wishing you well,

Tracy

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100 Ways

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One of the best ways I’ve found to generate joy in my life is my gratitude practice.

I do it first thing in the morning as part of my morning ritual.

In my dedicated gratitude journal, every day.

I review the day before and create a simple list of 10 things I am grateful for.

Sometimes the items on the list are as basic as being grateful for my gratitude practice.

Other times they may involve something more complex, such as the day after my accident.

On that day, I was grateful for my life, that my children were snug in their beds at the time, and so much more.

Some days it is a challenge, depending on my thought management.

But it always helps me to see things differently.

To find the good, the joy, the beauty in life.

This has not always been easy for me.

In my former life, I saw the glass half empty.

But and what if were constants in my mind chatter and my word.

Now, I look forward to my gratitude practice, the opportunity to start the day with grateful eyes.

I kick started my gratitude practice by creating a list of 100 people I am grateful for.

At first this task felt daunting, so I wrote daily for a week, reflecting each day on my life.

I started with my present life and progressed backward in time…life with kids, life with my husband before kids, adult life before my husband, early adulthood, childhood…

I was amazed to find that when I was finished I had over 125 people on my list.

I am still adding to that list.

And you are on it:)

Wishing you well

Tracy

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