Choose Joy


We create the life we lead. Whether we mean to or not. Oftentimes, we create it exactly the way we did yesterday, the year before and the year before that. Like Ground Hog Day. Over and over and over again. The people and circumstances may change slightly but we still have the same life.

  • the same health
  • the same relationships
  • the same job

We may give our circumstances a face-lift.  But in essence, we stick with the pattern that has been ingrained in us, the pattern we have ingrained in ourselves. Our minds love patterns.

We create the life we lead by the thoughts we think. Simple but true. If we ever wonder where our focus is, we need no more than to look at our lives.

Circumstances are circumstances. They are simply what happens around us.

  • Thoughts.  About circumstances.  Create feelings.

  • Feelings generate actions.

  • Actions produce results.

  • Results are the lives we lead.

Good News!!! We have complete control over our thoughts. In fact, our thoughts are the only thing in life that we have complete control over.

It starts with noticing what you’re noticing.  A feeling is often the first indication of a thought you are having. 

Try this…

  • Identify a familiar feeling you have had (Ex. Anger, frustration, overwhelm)

  • Trace the feeling back to a thought.

  • Choose an expansive thought.  Choose to become interested in gratitude, joy or beauty.

  • Notice how the new thought feels.

  • Wash.Rinse.Repeat.   

Try this with all of your undesirable thoughts. It takes practice but it will change your life. One thought at a time.

You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every day. This is a power you can cultivate. If you want to control things in your life so bad, work on the mind. That's the only thing you should be trying to control.
~ Elizabeth Gilbert

Shine Brightly,


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