Little Eyes Ears and Hearts

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Have you ever watched your children play or listened to their conversations?  Chances are you noticed a lot of yourself in those precious moments.  Sometimes your heart swells with pride and other times, you are not so pleased with what you are unintentionally sharing with them (mommy guilt - I'm right there with you).

You have an opportunity here, a gift. A gift that will last a lifetime. You can choose to model your best self for your children. You can choose to model the hero’s journey over the victim’s journey, the high road over the low road. You can choose to live an authentic, empowered, harmonious life.  You have choice.  Always.

Your children are learning how to navigate through life by watching you. They are carefully tuned into you.  Their teacher.  For direction. It is up to you to model what you would most like them to see.

It takes a constant shifting.  All day.  Every day.  Shifting into being the best version of yourself.  Knowing that every moment is a brand new baby moment.  Another chance to make a different choice.  It's simple really - this shifting.  It's just not easy.

It won’t be perfect.  Sometimes it will be frustrating as hell.  You may not see it until they are in their thirties but by reaching deep within yourself you are giving your children an immeasurable gift and the beginnings of a new legacy.

Little eyes, ears and hearts are always watching.  Let them see what you really want them to see.


Try this next time you feel a reaction coming on:

  • Notice what you're noticing.  Awareness is the first step in changing a pattern.
  • Pause and take a breath (or two or five).  Pause to regroup and breathe to calm yourself.
  • Respond the way you would like your children to experience you.

Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


*Do you need help responding instead of reacting?  Start here with this complimentary series of Life By Design Daily Affirmations.  These affirmations are designed with care to remind you of who you are, all that you are capable of and how much you rock.  (The first affirmation is the most important.)  Enjoy!


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Fall or Fail

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Have you ever watched a baby learn to walk?  I mean really watch the determination and will it takes to learn to get up on two feet and walk? 

The getting up.  The falling down.  The getting up.  The falling down.  Not many babies get up and walk the first time they try.

We all had that determination at one time.  Somehow we have forgotten that it takes practice to get better at anything.  That the more we try the better chance we have of getting up on two feet.

Failure is actually a perception.  We can choose to see failure as simply information, an outcome or a result of an action we took.  We can choose to see ourselves falling instead of failing.  When we fall, we dust ourselves off and get back up.  We learn from the experience and use what we learned to do it differently next time.

Share a time you turned a fail into a fall and what you learned from the experience with a comment below.

Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


*Do you need help turning a fail into a fall?  Start here with this complimentary series of Life By Design Daily Affirmations.  These affirmations are designed with care to remind you of who you are, all that you are capable of and how much you rock.  (The first affirmation is the most important.)  Enjoy!


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Your Inner Wonder Woman

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Deep inside each woman lays an inner wonder woman. 

  • She may be active daily.
  • She may be lying dormant.
  • She may come out only on special occasions.

In some, it may be decades.  In some, she may never be seen.

Regardless, she is always there. 

  • She is strong.
  • She is patient.
  • She is bold.
  • She is smart.
  • She is kind.
  • She is courageous.
  • She knows what to do.

She is dependable as the rising sun.  Solid as a rock.

She waits in the wings.  Sending inner messages of love and power.  Waiting for an invitation to come forth.  It is up to you and I to set her free.

She is you.  She is me.  She is all of our sisters united as one.


To access your inner wonder woman, try this:

Stand tall with feet hip distance apart

Roll your shoulders back

Place your hands on your hips and say “I’ve got this!”

*Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.


Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


*Do you need help finding your inner wonder woman?  Start here with this complimentary series of Life By Design Daily Affirmations. These affirmations are designed with care to remind you of who you are, what you are capable of and how much you rock.  (The first one is the most important.)  Enjoy!


Photo Credit:  Pietra Schwarzler on Unsplash

Weaving a Tapestry of Support

A common thread in my work with women is the fierce desire for connection.  A tribe.  A power posse.  Call it what you will.  It is the innate desire we all have to be in communion with others. 

For some it is to have just one close friend.  A confidante to share our innermost desires and secrets. 

For others it is to have a tribe.  A group of women who gather frequently. 

  • For support. 
  • For celebration. 
  • For comfort.   

I have a combination of the two.  What I call a tapestry of support.  A handpicked selection of beautiful beings from all aspects of my life.  Whose lives are intricately woven together with me as the common thread.

I feel incredibly blessed to have this tapestry of support.  I am more supported now than I have ever been in my life.  With the knowing that if I fall (and I will), my sisters will be there by my side to brush me off and remind me of who I truly am.

Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


*Do you need help finding your tribe?  Start here with this complimentary series of Life By Design Daily Affirmations. These affirmations are designed with care to remind you of who you are, what you are capable of and how much you rock.  (The first one is the most important.)  Enjoy!


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A Soft Place to Land

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What does your soul desire?  What does your soul need?  What fills your soul to the brim?

There are as many ways to feed a soul as there are souls to feed.  We have each come into this human form with our own lessons to learn.  Our own mountains to climb. 

Our soul print is as individual as our thumbprint.  We are at the same time connected as one on the spiritual level and unique on the human level. 

We each have our own purpose in this lifetime and it begins with creating a soft place to land.  For ourselves first and then for others.  We must fill our own cups to the brim so that we are able to give from the overflow.  

Most of us come at this with the belief that we must put the needs of others first.  I find this especially true of mothers.  There is this misconception that we must give all we've got to our families before tending to our own needs. 

I learned the hard way, after a herniated disc, chronic fatigue and a clear reflection from my then 3 year old, a highly sensitive old soul, of how poorly I was treating myself. 

As much as I don't love to get up early, I found that the best way to create a soft place for myself to land was to get up and out of bed. 

Early Morning.  Before my family wakes.  Is now my favorite time of day.

In the quiet stillness.  The dawn of a new day of life.

It’s my time.  To fill my cup.  To feed my mind, my body and my soul.

Try this to create a soft place for yourself to land:

  • Get Clear - Imagine:  Who would I love to BE for myself? Who would I love to BE for my family? Who would I love to BE in the world? (ex. I AM at my ideal weight. I AM present with my family. I AM a spreader of joy.)   

  • Create Stillness - Pause. Breathe. Ask. Listen.  - Ask yourself this question into the stillness and then listen.  What can I do with what I have to BEcome the woman I imagined above? (Ex. Get up early and walk.  Put my phone down and give my child my full attention.  Get out of the house, smile and share my light with everyone I encounter.)

  • Take Action - Incorporate one new idea into your life at a time.  When you have fully created the habit, incorporate another new idea into your life. 

Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


*Do you need help creating a soft place to land?  Start here with this complimentary series of Life By Design Daily Affirmations.  These affirmations are designed with care to remind you of who you are, all that you are capable of and how much you rock.  (The first affirmation is the most important.)  Enjoy!


Photo Credit:  @carlijeen

Peaceful Easy Feeling

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Did you ever feel like you were having “one of those days”?  You wake up late…spill coffee on your white blouse…get stuck in traffic after leaving the house late…

It’s tempting to think that these things are happening TO you.  That you are powerless and destined for more of the same.

This couldn’t be further from the truth.  You are incredibly powerful.  Just look at your life.  You created it all.

Your energy at any given time determines the way you see the world and the way the world sees you.  And, if you are looking at the world from a place of victim-hood, you will see and experience more victim-hood.

Try this trio next time you begin to notice these dis-empowering TO me thoughts.

  1. Pause – this will give you a chance to respond instead of react.
  2. Breathe – find some stillness; take 3 breaths in through the nose and out through the mouth; let the exhale be longer than the inhale
  3. Mantra – choose a mantra that expresses how you would like to BE in the situation. Repeat the mantra to yourself.  Ex. Inhale ~ I AM calm, Exhale ~ I AM peaceful

I have found that changing my energy before I transition into any situation really helps.

  • In the morning before greeting my family

  • In the car before picking up my kids from school

  • On my doorstep before walking in my front door

Fun. Flow. Freedom

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


*Do you need help changing your energy?  Start here with this complimentary series of Life By Design Daily Affirmations.  These affirmations are designed with care to remind you of who you are, all that you are capable of and how much you rock.  (The first affirmation is the most important.)  Enjoy!


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I Heart Sedona

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Do you have an adventure list?  Is there something in particular that you’d love to see or do or experience that just seems to stay a thought in your head?

Many years ago, my husband and I had an extended lay over in Phoenix.  We had just enough time to rent a car, drive the 2 hours to Sedona to watch a sunset and return to the Phoenix airport to catch our flight. Ever since then, experiencing another Sedona sunset had been on the adventure list in my head.

In May it became a reality!  Sunrise, sunset, yoga hiking tour and so much more.  It was just as I imagined it would be.  Just as I had written about it day after day.

  • I DECIDED to go to Sedona.
  • I IMAGINED it daily in my mind, in my journal and on my vision board.
  • I TOOK ACTION by choosing a date and making reservations.

That's me in tree pose on top of Cathedral Rock!  I even found a quiet rock to meditate on.  This is what it looks like when I follow my bliss.

What does your bliss look like?

Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


*Do you need help finding your bliss?  Start here with this complimentary series of Life By Design Daily Affirmations.  These affirmations are designed with care to remind you of who you are, all that you are capable of and how much you rock.  (The first affirmation is the most important.)  Enjoy!

The Color of Your Heart

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I had the good fortune of witnessing a thought provoking conversation between my children this morning.  They were having a civil conversation about the color of each other’s hearts.  My daughter told my son that his heart was red and had some black spots on it because, she said, he could be mean.  My son, the oldest of the two, told my daughter the same.  That her heart had black spots on it too but it was because she was annoying.

I asked each of them what color they thought their own hearts were and they both said red and blue, like the images they had seen of the heart.  Then, I asked them what color my heart was.  My son replied that mine was pink and yellow.  He said that pink means happiness and yellow means kindness.

This melted my pink and yellow heart.

Years ago, he wouldn’t have chosen pink and yellow, because I was anything but happy.  I could ponder that…what color would my heart have been?  Instead I choose to relish in the fact that my son.  The old soul.  The one who reads me like a book.  Sees me, his mother, as happy and kind.

So grateful to the woman I was 6 years ago!  All of this work that I have done.  All of the tearing down what wasn’t working and building up what does.  The dismantling of my old life to create something new and beautiful.  It was all worth it!

What about you?  What color is your heart?

Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


*Do you need help changing your legacy?  Start here with this complimentary series of Life By Design Daily Affirmations.  These affirmations are designed with care to remind you of who you are, all that you are capable of and how much you rock.  (The first affirmation is the most important.)  Enjoy!


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Doing Scary Stuff

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I’ve been doing lots of scary stuff lately.

Moving WAY out of my comfort zone.

Taking bold, brave steps in the direction of what I truly desire.

Does it scare me?  Yes!

Do I have to force myself sometimes?  Yes!

Do I succumb to the 3 Ds of dissuasion, distraction and delay?  Yes!  Yes!  Yes!

It is not easy.  Doing this scary stuff.

There is this gravitational pull to my old ways.

My “safe” ways.  The ways that I’ve known.

But I know that the good stuff lies just past the scary stuff.

So I continue to take the steps.

Sometimes they are big and bold and sometimes they are little baby steps.

And with every step I take, I know deep in my heart, that it is all a part of my becoming.

Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


*Do you need stepping out of your comfort zone?  Start here with this complimentary series of Life By Design Daily Affirmations.  These affirmations are designed with care to remind you of who you are, all that you are capable of and how much you rock.  (The first affirmation is the most important.)  Enjoy!