Be Careful What You Wish For

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Did you ever wish for something that you really wanted but thought that it would never come true?

You know.  It's that thing that you feel deep down in your core.  Something you ponder while drifting off to sleep at night.  If only, you think to yourself. 

Well, I did too!

For me it was that elusive relationship with my father. The one I had been craving since childhood. Due to circumstances beyond my control I spent over 2 decades wishing and wanting. It felt so far out of my reach.

And today, I am pinching myself. 

The latest and greatest is that my father is moving to Raleigh. In September. He wants to be near me. To know his grandchildren. To be a part of our lives.

And, my heart is filled to overflowing.

I never imagined that it would happen...that is until I did.  I imagined it with all of my heart and soul.

And, I'm here to tell you that miracles do happen. They are everywhere if we open our eyes. Sometimes they are big and sometimes they are very small but they do happen.

This particular miracle began with changing my mind and moving toward what I want rather than pushing away from what I don't. Deciding for rather than wishing for. 

  • Deciding what I wanted
  • Believing that it would happen
  • Taking action on my desires

With this in mind, I am holding a Vision Board Workshop later this month.  To help you get super clear about what you want.  To keep it up close and in your awareness.  So that you can begin to take the steps necessary to bring your miracles into your life.

How about you? Any miracles occurring in your life? Please reply to this email and let me know regardless of how small they seem?  It lights me up to hear about all the goodness in the world.

Wishing you and yours peace, love, joy and many miracles!

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


Life by Design Vision Board Workshop

Saturday, September 29

10-4PM EST

Raleigh, NC

$75 (includes a delicious lunch from Sunflowers Cafe)

Shifting Your Vibe

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Have you ever watched the energy shift as soon as someone walks into a room?  In my teaching days it became a daily practice to check my energy before walking in the door. It was a practice I had to cultivate.  If I happened to forget and bring my frenzied rush hour commute into the classroom, we were all doomed!

Yes.

I am that powerful.

And so are you.

One year I had the good fortune of working with a child who taught me a clear lesson about energy.  About vibration. 

This child would literally climb the door frame if I wasn’t watching. Once I turned around to find him standing on the window ledge of our 3rd story classroom!  His “I need help controlling my body” energy affected us all.  I was affected by his amped up energy that would in turn amp up the energy of the whole classroom.  It was a trying time to say the least.

Despite the difficulty of the year, I learned about energy. About vibration.  I learned that I could help this child and his classmates by changing MY energy, by changing MY vibe.  I was better able to help him with his energy after I took care of my own.  It took practice (an ongoing practice) but it really served me, the children and ultimately my own family.

I'm still working on this...every day!

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


Do you need help changing your vibe?  START HERE with this complimentary series of Life By Design Daily Affirmations.  These affirmations are designed with care to remind you of who you are, what you are capable of and how much you rock.  (The first one is the most important.)  Enjoy!


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BE Her Now

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There is nothing quite like living a vision driven life.  Creating a vision and BEcoming the woman you are envisioning.  Bearing witness to the metamorphosis within yourself.

It starts with a vision.  3 years from today.  Something that lights you up.  Has the YES! factor.  An absolute YES!  I would love this life.

And, then, there is the contrast.  The space.  The gap.  Between the life you would love to live and the life you are living today. 

It is natural.  The feeling of this gap.  The fear.  The uncertainty.  The unknown.  The “how the hell am I going to get from here to there” feeling.

That woman.  The woman you are envisioning 3 years from today.  She is already within you.  You are BEcoming her.

It’s not an arrival.  A place to get to.  It’s a BEcoming.  YOUR BEcoming.

And, in order to BEcome her, you need to BE HER NOW.

Let’s say that in your vision.  3 years from today.  You are a loving, caring, patient mom.  This is what you desire.  You want this more than anything.  BE HER NOW in your current circumstances.  Not waiting for things to change first.

If, in your vision 3 years from today, you are working in an amazing work environment where you are respected, fulfilled and challenged.  Then, you are BEING HER NOW in the workplace you are in today.

How about that radiant health and well-being in your 3 year vision?  You feel well-rested, vibrant and energetic NOW.

  • How would you hold yourself?
  • What kinds of conversations would you have?
  • How would it feel to be you?

BE HER NOW.  And you will find.  That when you are that loving, caring, patient mom or in a work environment where you are respected, fulfilled and challenged or experiencing radiant health and well-being, you already know what it feels like.  Because you had been rehearsing.  You created future memory.  Cells of recognition.

You had been BEING HER NOW.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


Do you need help BEing Her Now?  START HERE with this complimentary series of Life By Design Daily Affirmations.  These affirmations are designed with care to remind you of who you are, what you are capable of and how much you rock.  (The first one is the most important.)  Enjoy!

Creating Time

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Sometimes I feel as if I am in constant motion.  My body.  My mouth.  My mind.

Moving.

Moving.

Moving.

Waking my children (sometimes 5 times), breakfast, morning chores, moving everyone out the door for school, going to work, returning to school for pick up, activities, homework, dinner, bathing and bedtime.  And that doesn't include the unexpected.  At the end of the day, if I don’t take the time for self-care, I collapse in bed only to do the same thing again the next day.

I have found that the most important time in my day is the ME time I give myself.  Through a lot of trial and error I have found 3 key ways to create more time in the day.


Try this:

  1. Rise and Shine - Are you constantly searching for more hours in the day?  Good news!  You can find instant hours.  Any number you’d like.  In the wee hours before your family wakes.  Getting up before your family may sound like an impossible feat.  But, I promise, you can do this too.  And, once you experience the beauty of an early morning by yourself, you will wonder why it took you so long to begin.  Luxuriate in a morning ritual created just for you.
  2. Use Your Calendar - Schedule your big rocks, the most important activities, first.  You can then fill in the open spaces with other activities.  Self-care is a big rock.  It is more important than anything else on your schedule.  You cannot give from an empty vessel...  *Take 10 minutes at the end of the day to review your calendar and schedule anything that needs to be done so it doesn’t sit in your mind and keep you awake at night.
  3. Go to bed - As much as you would like to stay up and watch mindless tv some nights, make a commitment to yourself.  Get to bed in time to give yourself 7-8 hours of sleep.  Sleep is one of the best ways to fill your cup and a good night sleep will be incredibly helpful in getting up before the rest of the household does in the morning.  *Create a new evening ritual.  Before turning out the lights for the night, take the time to unwind, reflect on your day, read and/or write in a journal.

I bet you never knew you could Create Time!  What will you do with yours?  Please share with a comment below.

Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


*Do you need help creating time?  Start here with this complimentary series of Life By Design Daily Affirmations.  These affirmations are designed with care to remind you of who you are, all that you are capable of and how much you rock.  (The first affirmation is the most important.)  Enjoy!

Little Eyes Ears and Hearts

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Have you ever watched your children play or listened to their conversations?  Chances are you noticed a lot of yourself in those precious moments.  Sometimes your heart swells with pride and other times, you are not so pleased with what you are unintentionally sharing with them (mommy guilt - I'm right there with you).

You have an opportunity here, a gift. A gift that will last a lifetime. You can choose to model your best self for your children. You can choose to model the hero’s journey over the victim’s journey, the high road over the low road. You can choose to live an authentic, empowered, harmonious life.  You have choice.  Always.

Your children are learning how to navigate through life by watching you. They are carefully tuned into you.  Their teacher.  For direction. It is up to you to model what you would most like them to see.

It takes a constant shifting.  All day.  Every day.  Shifting into being the best version of yourself.  Knowing that every moment is a brand new baby moment.  Another chance to make a different choice.  It's simple really - this shifting.  It's just not easy.

It won’t be perfect.  Sometimes it will be frustrating as hell.  You may not see it until they are in their thirties but by reaching deep within yourself you are giving your children an immeasurable gift and the beginnings of a new legacy.

Little eyes, ears and hearts are always watching.  Let them see what you really want them to see.


Try this next time you feel a reaction coming on:

  • Notice what you're noticing.  Awareness is the first step in changing a pattern.
  • Pause and take a breath (or two or five).  Pause to regroup and breathe to calm yourself.
  • Respond the way you would like your children to experience you.

Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


*Do you need help responding instead of reacting?  Start here with this complimentary series of Life By Design Daily Affirmations.  These affirmations are designed with care to remind you of who you are, all that you are capable of and how much you rock.  (The first affirmation is the most important.)  Enjoy!


Photo by Patricia Prudente on Unsplash

Fall or Fail

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Have you ever watched a baby learn to walk?  I mean really watch the determination and will it takes to learn to get up on two feet and walk? 

The getting up.  The falling down.  The getting up.  The falling down.  Not many babies get up and walk the first time they try.

We all had that determination at one time.  Somehow we have forgotten that it takes practice to get better at anything.  That the more we try the better chance we have of getting up on two feet.

Failure is actually a perception.  We can choose to see failure as simply information, an outcome or a result of an action we took.  We can choose to see ourselves falling instead of failing.  When we fall, we dust ourselves off and get back up.  We learn from the experience and use what we learned to do it differently next time.

Share a time you turned a fail into a fall and what you learned from the experience with a comment below.

Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


*Do you need help turning a fail into a fall?  Start here with this complimentary series of Life By Design Daily Affirmations.  These affirmations are designed with care to remind you of who you are, all that you are capable of and how much you rock.  (The first affirmation is the most important.)  Enjoy!


Photo by Jakob Owens on Unsplash

Changing Your Mood with Gratitude

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The other night my 8 year old daughter was having a difficult time.  It had been a full week and we recently had to have a few difficult conversations with our children about death. 

My daughter, who has a vivid imagination, did NOT want to sleep in her bed.  She was not having any part of it.  By 10PM I realized that she was serious! 

So, I got her settled into my bed and took out my gratitude journal for me and my bedside notebook for her.  Her eyes lit up at the sight of the notebook as she is an artist in the making and draws any chance she can get.  I told her that instead of our nightly “grateful prayer”, as we call it, we were going to write in our gratitude journals to help us change our thoughts.

I was delighted with the experience for both of us and for the learning that took place that night.  She now has her own gratitude journal.  A simple solution with a powerful outcome. 


Try this:

  • Notice how you are feeling

  • Trace the feeling back to a thought

  • Bring to mind something that you are grateful for and feel it fully

Wash. Rinse. Repeat as needed.


Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


*Do you need help changing your mood?  Start here with this complimentary series of Life By Design Daily Affirmations. These affirmations are designed with care to remind you of your awesomeness.  (The first one is the most important.)  Enjoy!


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New Year New Vision Board

The days of creating New Year’s Resolutions are over for me.  I spent so many years creating them and then being completely disappointed in my failure to follow through with what I thought I wanted.

Now, I create a yearly Vision Board.

My Vision Board is a daily reminder of my intentions.  A visual reminder of what I truly desire in my life.    It is less about things and more about creation.  What I want to create for myself and my family.

I still include things on my board.  But, now, they are more of a marker rather than filling a hole as they were in the past.  An indication that I have arrived.

They remind me:

  • That I am on the right track.
  • That I am living my life by choice.
  • That I am a powerful force in my own life.

A true Vision Board is not a craft project.  It’s not a cut and paste activity although I’ve seen some delightful Vision Board creations.  Some true works of art.

It’s much, much more.  A Vision Board, created with inner inquiry and intention, is a powerful tool in creating what we truly desire.  It’s a decision to live life by design rather than by the default mode we may have been used to Up Until Now.

Good News!  I am holding a Vision Board Workshop in Raleigh, on January 27, 2018!  Join us for a full day immersion including a mini workshop, coaching, inner inquiry and sharing with 11 other powerful creators in a room full of creative energy.  Sign up now as there are only 12 seats and they will fill up fast.

Here’s to 2018!  The best year of your life!

*I placed red hearts on the images that have come into being.  You should see the rest of the board!  (I'll bring it to the workshop)

Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


*Do you need help creating a life you love?  Start here with this complimentary series of Life By Design Daily Affirmations. These affirmations are designed with care to remind you of who you are, what you are capable of and how much you rock.  (The first one is the most important.)  Enjoy!

Bubble of Peace

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Do you feel it?  The frenetic energy in the air.  As the holidays loom in the not so distant future.

  • For some of us it is the anticipation of all we need to do.
  • For some of us it is the anticipation of spending time with family.
  • For others it is the anticipation of spending the holidays without loved ones.

Wherever it comes from, it is sometimes difficult to discern what is ours and what we are feeling from the world around us.  And, it is during these times, that it is especially important to create sacred space for ourselves.  Creating space inside ourselves first and then extending outside into our environment.

A great daily practice is to create a protective bubble around yourself. 

Be Still. Focus on your breath.  Try this:

Bubble of Peace

  1. Place your hands at your side

  2. Imagine that with each inhale you are filling your lungs with love

  3. Imagine that with each exhale you are blowing up a bubble and filling it with peace

  4. On each exhale, raise your arms a little at a time until your bubble extends from finger tip to finger tip

  5. Imagine that you are completely surrounded and protected in your own little bubble of peace.

Wash. Rinse. Repeat as needed.

Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


*Do you need help creating a bubble of peace?  Start here with this complimentary series of Life By Design Daily Affirmations.  These affirmations are designed with care to remind you of who you are, all that you are capable of and how much you rock.  (The first affirmation is the most important.)  Enjoy!


 

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Three Little Words

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A few years ago I began choosing a new Word of the Year every January.  Last year was my year of YES!  I took it to heart.  I said Yes! to my health, Yes! to my family, Yes! to my dreams, Yes! to abundance, and Yes! to No!  It was an amazing year of YES! indeed.

This year I have chosen three little words.  They go together like peanut butter and jelly.  Like three peas in a pod.  They felt expansive and right and perfect for 2017.

FUN FLOW FREEDOM

As I revisit my vision and goals halfway through the year and glance up at my 2017 Vision Board, I see Fun, Flow and Freedom throughout the entire board.  I’ve begun placing red heart stickers on the images that have come to be or that are in process like trips that are planned or purchases that are being made.

I see images of FUN with family ~ jumping on our trampoline, camping and riding bikes.  I see FUN with friends ~ dancing, floating and connecting.  I see FUN with clients ~  teaching, speaking and sharing.

I see images of FLOW and FREEDOM my health and well-being, in my relationships, in my time, in my money and in my work.

What is your word of the year?  Are you living it?  Without judgement, assess the first 6 months of 2017.  What could you do more of?  What could you do less of?

We’re halfway through the year and the possibilities are endless.  What could you do to take the first step in really living your word of the year?

Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


*Do you need finding your word of the year?  Start here with this complimentary series of Life By Design Daily Affirmations.  These affirmations are designed with care to remind you of who you are, all that you are capable of and how much you rock.  (The first affirmation is the most important.)  Enjoy!

Doing Scary Stuff

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I’ve been doing lots of scary stuff lately.

Moving WAY out of my comfort zone.

Taking bold, brave steps in the direction of what I truly desire.

Does it scare me?  Yes!

Do I have to force myself sometimes?  Yes!

Do I succumb to the 3 Ds of dissuasion, distraction and delay?  Yes!  Yes!  Yes!

It is not easy.  Doing this scary stuff.

There is this gravitational pull to my old ways.

My “safe” ways.  The ways that I’ve known.

But I know that the good stuff lies just past the scary stuff.

So I continue to take the steps.

Sometimes they are big and bold and sometimes they are little baby steps.

And with every step I take, I know deep in my heart, that it is all a part of my becoming.

Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


*Do you need stepping out of your comfort zone?  Start here with this complimentary series of Life By Design Daily Affirmations.  These affirmations are designed with care to remind you of who you are, all that you are capable of and how much you rock.  (The first affirmation is the most important.)  Enjoy!

For This I Came

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Have you ever felt as if there was more for you in this life but you just couldn't figure out what it was?  Me too.  I spent most of my adult life seeking, studying and analyzing.  Looking outside of myself for the answers.

I spent much of that time thinking...

  • after I get the ideal job I will...
  • after I get my health in order I will...
  • after I get my finances figured out I will...

And, now I understand that purpose doesn't mean that there is one grand plan for life here on Earth.  That I am here to accomplish just one thing.

I finally get it.  Life is to be lived.  NOW!  I am here to live my joy in this moment.

I discovered that purpose is more about living fully, doing what brings me life.  Rather than searching for purpose, I could have been living on purpose.  And, enjoying life along the way.

I discovered that I can use my imagination to try on different roles, different scenarios.  I listen to the still, small, ever present, ever wise voice inside of me.  And, see how they feel.  I do the expansion/contraction test.  Does this bring me life or does it feel constrictive?  If it brings me life I know that I am on the right track.

Why are you here?  What lights you up?  What would you love to be or do or have?

Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy

Need help discovering your purpose?  Schedule a Fun Flow & Freedom Clarity Call today!

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