ABCs and Motherhood

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We live in a noisy world.  We are blasted in every waking hour with messages, opinions and the demands of others.  And then there is parenting…

Just the other day I ordered groceries from the grocery store (I love the ease of ordering only what I need and having it delivered to my door – brilliant!).  An hour or so before my groceries were to be delivered, a young woman from the store called me 3 times within 30 minutes (I was on a coaching call).  Each time a little more agitated that I hadn’t called her back yet. 

We live in an age of immediate gratification.  We are expected to be available in a moment’s notice.  A text comes in and we’re expected to answer it immediately.  It can truly be exhausting if we allow ourselves to be continually seduced by the requests and messages of others.

This is why mental self-care is crucial for our health and well-being.  I love the acronym ABC – Always Be Connected (to your higher self).  It’s sort of like connecting to Wi-Fi. 

You will know you are connected when you experience the observer self.  The part of you that notices that you are having thoughts.  The part of you that notices your body and your surroundings.

Ask yourself:  AM I Connected?

Breathe into this moment

Connect with your higher self

Shine Brightly,

Tracy

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A Whisper and a Hummingbird Feeder

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I think it was Gandhi who said that the voice for truth speaks to every person on the planet every single day.  It is as loud as your willingness to listen.  He’s talking about the still, small voice of truth inside each one of us.  An inner voice, a gut instinct, a whisper.  It is your very own intuition. You may call it your mom gut. 

It’s your life speaking to you.  It is your inner wisdom and it is connected to all that is.  It is the inner voice that nudged you to read this blog post.  I believe that it is no accident that we are here together.  You listened.  I listened.  And, here we are. 

Think back on a time when you were thinking about a song and you hear it on Pandora.  You think about a friend and you run into them in the grocery store. 

My mom used to do this all the time.  I would pick up the phone and she would be calling me or vice versa. 

A while back I bought a friend a hummingbird feeder with hooks and all for her birthday.  I listened to an inner nudge, a whisper, and I knew I had found the perfect gift. She laughed when I gave it to her because that morning she had written buy and install hummingbird feeder on her to do list.  She showed it to me and checked it off her list.

It’s not a coincidence.  It’s a connection.  It’s intuition.  It’s being on the same wave length.  The same vibration.  We were thinking of each other at the same time.  Listening to our still, small voices and acting upon what we were hearing. 

Pay attention. Listen to the whispers. Follow your yellow brick road.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy

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Opening the Door to Possibility

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What if you had a magic wand and all of your dreams came true…today?  Would you be ready?  

The ideal relationship

The ideal job opportunity

The ideal home

What if they were already here?  Just waiting for you. Would you be ready to open the door and let them in?

Many of us, when we even dare to dream, forget this very important piece.  In order to get what we want in life, we have to make the space for it.  We have to make it welcome in our lives.

A friend’s sister won the lottery many years ago.  Overnight, she became a millionaire.  Within a few short years she lost it all and ended up in a worse financial situation than she was before she won.  She wasn’t ready. 

Dreaming the ideal home doesn’t get you the keys.  It requires action.

What would you love?

What steps need to be taken?

What beliefs will you need to adopt to BEcome the woman living in the ideal home?

Get ready.  Open the door to possibility. 

Shine Brightly,

Tracy

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The Gift of BEing an Empowered Mom

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You are worthy of every good thing life has to offer and it is essential that you believe it in order to BEcome the woman you are envisioning. 

You have been chosen to be in this body at this moment in history and you don't have to be or do or acquire anything to be more deserving than you are right now.  You are as unique as your thumbprint and there has never been and never will be anyone exactly like you. 

The world is waiting for you to shine your light with your unique combination of values, passions, gifts, skills, talents, characteristics and experience.

You may be asking yourself.  Well, why should I take the time to generate self-worth?  It sounds like a whole lot of work. 

Here is why. 

The greatest gift you can give your children and the world is to be an example of a powerful woman.  Not power over something or someone but personal power.  Recognizing and embracing the power within you. 

To create a new legacy of modeling self-love and self-acceptance for your children and everyone you encounter. 

Loving others (our children especially) more than ourselves is toxic and we don’t want to pass that along.  The world needs more examples of people who love themselves.  You are here to be that example. 

Remember this: 

You have a history but you are not your history. 

You have a story but you are not your story. 

You have a body but you are not your body. 

You are much much more.

And, if you need to borrow my belief in you for now, please feel free.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy

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Patterns in Motherhood

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Have you ever seen the movie Groundhog Day? The main character, played by Bill Murray, relives the same day over and over and over again. Each day is exactly like the day before. Many of us do the same thing in our own lives. 

We often unknowingly create patterns in our lives and in our families.  Patterns of thinking, patterns of behavior and patterns of how we relate to each other and our surroundings.  The mind loves patterns because patterns are easy.  True thinking is work for the mind so it tends to refer to the default setting of the patterns that are already in place.

We’ve practiced them.  We’ve perfected them.  They have become comfortable in an uncomfortable way if that makes sense.  I have a friend who told me flat out that even though her life was painful, she liked the comfort of the darkness because it was familiar.  She knew what to expect.  She is not alone.  Many, if not most of us choose to stay with what we know. 

The Groundhog Day Effect, as I like to call it, can also be seen on a broader scale.  Whether we mean to or not, we often create the same life over and over again even though we are trying to make change.  We may give our circumstances a “facelift”, a new house, a new job, a new relationship, but in essence, we stick with the pattern that has been ingrained in us and create the same life in a different place.  Wherever you go, there you are.

I had a woman come to a vision board workshop once who said that she looked through her journals over the past 10 years and realized that she had been living the exact same life for 10 years.  It was a sobering realization for her.

The good news is that we have complete control over our thoughts.  In fact, it is the only thing we do have complete control over.  It takes constant practice.  Like working a muscle.  But it is as simple as replacing old, dis-empowering thoughts with new, empowering ones.  Simple but not easy, that is.

It helps to have a list of replacement thoughts.  A list of thoughts we can turn to when the old, dis-empowering ones creep in, as they are prone to do.

Try this:

  • WRITE:  Fold a piece of paper in half the long way.  On the left side make a list of 10 dis-empowering thoughts that you consistently have and on the right make a list of positive, empowering, replacement thoughts

  • PAUSE: When you notice a negative thought, pause, take a breath and re-frame it.  Insert one of the new, empowering thoughts instead.

  • PRACTICE, practice, practice

It’s all about noticing what you’re noticing.  Noticing that you are having a negative thought is progress, my friends!  It’s the first step in changing a habit.  So celebrate it and keep noticing.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy

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10 Best Parenting Quotes

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I hope these quotes resonate with you as much as they do with me.   

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


There is no such thing as a perfect parent.  So just be a real one.  ~ Sue Atkins
Don’t worry that children never listen to you, worry that they are always watching you.  ~ Robert Fulghum
The best kind of parent you can be is to lead by example.  ~ Drew Barrymore
Being a mother is learning about strengths you didn’t know you had and dealing with fears you didn’t know existed.  ~ Linda Wooten
Your kids watch you for a living.  It’s their job; it’s what they do.  That’s why it’s so important to try your best to be a good role model.  ~ James Lehman
It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings.  ~ Ann Landers
It's not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can't tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it myself. ~ Joyce Maynard
Treat a child as though he already is the person he’s capable of becoming.  ~ Haim Ginott
If there is anything that we wish to change in the child, we should first examine it and see whether it is not something that could better be changed in ourselves.  ~ Carl Jung
Little eyes ears and hearts are always watching and learning how to navigate life through you.  Let them see you not just survive but thrive.  ~ Tracy Nolin Beerman

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New Year New Vision Board

The days of creating New Year’s Resolutions are over for me.  I spent so many years creating them and then being completely disappointed in my failure to follow through with what I thought I wanted.

Now, I create a yearly Vision Board.

My Vision Board is a daily reminder of my intentions.  A visual reminder of what I truly desire in my life.    It is less about things and more about creation.  What I want to create for myself and my family.

I still include things on my board.  But, now, they are more of a marker rather than filling a hole as they were in the past.  An indication that I have arrived.

They remind me:

  • That I am on the right track.
  • That I am living my life by choice.
  • That I am a powerful force in my own life.

A true Vision Board is not a craft project.  It’s not a cut and paste activity although I’ve seen some delightful Vision Board creations.  Some true works of art.

It’s much, much more.  A Vision Board, created with inner inquiry and intention, is a powerful tool in creating what we truly desire.  It’s a decision to live life by design rather than by the default mode we may have been used to Up Until Now.

Good News!  I am holding a Vision Board Workshop in Raleigh, on January 27, 2018!  Join us for a full day immersion including a mini workshop, coaching, inner inquiry and sharing with 11 other powerful creators in a room full of creative energy.  Sign up now as there are only 12 seats and they will fill up fast.

Here’s to 2018!  The best year of your life!

*I placed red hearts on the images that have come into being.  You should see the rest of the board!  (I'll bring it to the workshop)

Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


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Bubble of Peace

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Do you feel it?  The frenetic energy in the air.  As the holidays loom in the not so distant future.

  • For some of us it is the anticipation of all we need to do.
  • For some of us it is the anticipation of spending time with family.
  • For others it is the anticipation of spending the holidays without loved ones.

Wherever it comes from, it is sometimes difficult to discern what is ours and what we are feeling from the world around us.  And, it is during these times, that it is especially important to create sacred space for ourselves.  Creating space inside ourselves first and then extending outside into our environment.

A great daily practice is to create a protective bubble around yourself. 

Be Still. Focus on your breath.  Try this:

Bubble of Peace

  1. Place your hands at your side

  2. Imagine that with each inhale you are filling your lungs with love

  3. Imagine that with each exhale you are blowing up a bubble and filling it with peace

  4. On each exhale, raise your arms a little at a time until your bubble extends from finger tip to finger tip

  5. Imagine that you are completely surrounded and protected in your own little bubble of peace.

Wash. Rinse. Repeat as needed.

Fun. Flow. Freedom.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


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Peaceful Easy Feeling

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Did you ever feel like you were having “one of those days”?  You wake up late…spill coffee on your white blouse…get stuck in traffic after leaving the house late…

It’s tempting to think that these things are happening TO you.  That you are powerless and destined for more of the same.

This couldn’t be further from the truth.  You are incredibly powerful.  Just look at your life.  You created it all.

Your energy at any given time determines the way you see the world and the way the world sees you.  And, if you are looking at the world from a place of victim-hood, you will see and experience more victim-hood.

Try this trio next time you begin to notice these dis-empowering TO me thoughts.

  1. Pause – this will give you a chance to respond instead of react.
  2. Breathe – find some stillness; take 3 breaths in through the nose and out through the mouth; let the exhale be longer than the inhale
  3. Mantra – choose a mantra that expresses how you would like to BE in the situation. Repeat the mantra to yourself.  Ex. Inhale ~ I AM calm, Exhale ~ I AM peaceful

I have found that changing my energy before I transition into any situation really helps.

  • In the morning before greeting my family

  • In the car before picking up my kids from school

  • On my doorstep before walking in my front door

Fun. Flow. Freedom

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


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