After a talk I gave recently, one of the participants asked me what I did to begin changing my life. On my ride home that night I realized that the answer I gave was why – my son showed me that he needed me to be an empowered role model.
After some thought it became clear to me that I hadn’t really answered the question. The very first place I started was by increasing my sense of worthiness. Hands down. I HAD to believe I was worthy of a better life or I would never have been able to make the changes necessary.
I would not have been able to let go of what no longer served me. I never would have been able to put myself and my self-care first. I never would have been able to establish boundaries and teach the people I love how to treat me.
It was uncomfortable. It was painful. It upset my loved ones who had been so used to me being a certain way. Saying yes when I really wanted to say no. Putting others first. Holding my tongue when I had something important to say. Being what others wanted me to be instead of being authentically me.
And, eventually the dust settled. I became more comfortable in my new way of being. My loved ones became more comfortable with my new way being.
And, once I changed my inner world, my outer world began to change. I noticed books on my husband’s book shelf that I never thought he’d choose. My mother, who I had been badgering to make a move, decided to move to town on her own. My dad and I began a new relationship with each other and also moved to town. My tribe began to show up.
The most beautiful part of the whole experience was that my children now get to bear witness to a mom who truly believes in herself. A mom who loved her kids so much that she was willing to be uncomfortable to learn how to love herself.
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