Cultivating Worthiness

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At the end of a talk I gave recently, one of the participants asked me what I did to begin changing my life.  On my ride home that night I realized that I never really answered the question.  I answered the why – my son showed me that he needed me to be an empowered role model.  Not the what. 

After giving it some thought it was clear to me that the very first place I started was by increasing my sense of worthiness.  Hands down.  I HAD to believe I was worthy of a better life or I would never have been able to make the changes necessary. 

  • I would not have been able to let go of what no longer served me. 
  • I would not have been able to put myself and my self-care first. 
  • I would not have been able to establish boundaries and teach others how to treat me. 

It was uncomfortable. It was painful.  It upset my loved ones who had been so used to me being a certain way. 

Saying yes when I really wanted to say no.  Putting everyone else first. 

Holding my tongue when I had something important to say.  Being what others wanted me to be instead of being authentically me. 

Eventually the dust settled.  I became more comfortable in my new way of being.  My loved ones became more comfortable with my new way being. 

Once I changed my inner world, my outer world began to change.  I noticed books on my husband’s book shelf that I never thought he’d choose.  My mother, who I had been badgering to make a move, decided to move to town.  My dad and I began a new relationship with each other.  My tribe began to show up. 

It all began with this daily affirmation:  I AM Worthy. 

I read this affirmation day and night.  Night and day.  Until I believed it.  Until I understood that my worthiness comes from inside and that I didn’t need anything to be more worthy than I already was.

I still use affirmations.  All day.  Every day.  Because I am human and sometimes I forget that I am worthy just the way I am. 

And so are you.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy


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Remember Your Brilliance

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Do you know how incredible you are?  Have you ever really thought about how much you have to offer?  About all of the ways that you rock?

We are often so blinded by the circumstances of our lives that we forget who we are.  As if amnesia has set in.  One disappointment.  One negative comment.  Can send us into a downward spiral of victim hood or low self-esteem.  We believe that we don’t have what it takes to pursue our heart’s desire.

The Truth is that you are capable of far more than you know.  There is not one person on Earth who is exactly like you.  Your experiences, your genes, your desires, your talents.  They are all woven together into an intricate, unrepeatable arrangement called YOU.

Guess what!  You have assets.  They may be hidden but they are there.  But, you can’t use your assets until you are aware of them, until you bring them to the surface and let them shine like a brilliant gem.

I’ve created a worksheet that I call Remember Your Brilliance. To help you create our own personal asset list.  This is different than creating a resume.  You are calling forth a full spectrum of assets.  Brilliance in all areas of life.

At first, it may seem like the list is coming out as a trickle, but as you delve deeper, going deep into your memory bank, you will be in awe at what comes forth.  The prompts will help you let it flow.

This simple practice will build confidence and self-esteem.  Remind you of all the ways you rock.  Let it support you in building your dream, in letting your light shine.

Ask yourself:  What can I do with what I have?

You have something unique and beautiful to offer the world.  You are capable of far more than you’ve ever imagined.  It’s time to share it.

Discover. Empower. Balance.

Shine Brightly,

Tracy

Click here to download the Remember Your Brilliance worksheet.